I have read my fair share of books and articles about relationships, personal responsibility and parenting. What with Mother's Day and all, now's a good time to share something from a book by Dr. Charney Herst about enriching & repairing the bond between parents & adult children. Here is Dr. Herst's "Mother's* Bill of Rights"
"I have the right...
- to be treated with respect
- to control my own life as long as I can
- to an explanation of my children's feelings ~ I cannot intuit them
- to my own thoughts
- to be sad or angry without hiding my feelings to protect my children
- to say no
- to reminisce and be sentimental
- to talk to my children about my problems. I do not expect them to provide solutions, just listen
- to buy nice things and go places
- to my own opinions. I do not expect my children to agree with all of them
- to miss my children. It does not mean I want to control them
I have the responsibility to respect each of my children and to grant them the same rights I expect for myself."
My thank to Dr. Herst. Blessings on you all - Ma Lockhart
* I think it applies to Dads, too