Last
night, I mentioned that the young people's choir sang at Sunday's Contemporary
Service. I did not mention the excellent
talk by Tommy Rose, which I had the pleasure of listening to on audio cassette.
Tommy
discussed the importance of not just going along with those we love when they
are doing things that are contrary to our dearest principles or condemning them
for acting differently than we would. He
talked about the need of binding good and truth together with love. That good by itself would be tempted to
accept all in the interest of friendship, that truth would tend to be
judgmental; that a middle ground needs
to be found, a different path followed.
Whether
as a parent, a friend or a wife, one of the hardest things I have
struggled to do is letting people know that
they are doing something destructive to dearly held principles ~ and ~ that I love
them, no matter what, yet I do not love what they do.
gMim
always said it is better to distance yourself from an unhealthy relationship
than to turn a blind eye to what you consider a disorder that the person can't
or won't change. That is so hard to do
without sounding condemning, even if your heart is in the right place. It is also difficult when the shoe is on the
other foot.
Tommy's
comments will keep me pondering for some time to come.
Love to
all on this beautiful, sunny day - KRL
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